Aiseyman! Why doesn’t anyone talk about racism within the gay community?


There is an elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about, and that is the sad truth that even within the LGBT community, minorities are discriminated against.

Growing up as a gay Malay Singaporean was very hard. Not only did I have to battle my own inner frustrations, I also had to deal with societal, ethnic and religious expectations of me. I can state without any hesitation that I have had more hatred shown towards me for being Malay than for being gay, and to make it worse, it is from the very community that I thought would understand me. I'm sure that even now, there are many more minority gay teenagers feeling as lonely, isolated and lost as I was back then. So in order to cope with the rejection and isolation, many Malays like me grow up with a defensive mechanism by being racist towards the race of people who were racist to them. It is an unhealthy self-perpetuating cycle of hatred and intolerance.

I hope that by finally speaking up about this elephant, people will be aware of their own racist tendencies and attitudes towards other minorities and that we can all change this shameful mentality.